It was quite an afternoon, a winter afternoon, A lightly glowing sun, the kind you see on some winter afternoons. I was sitting on my balcony. I was sitting, not waiting for anything, just letting the quiet exist. Everything felt so quiet and still in a way that it didn’t demand any attention. No noise, no music, no notification, no judgmental voices, I noticed how easy it felt to breathe there, how I didn’t feel uncomfortable being by myself.
How easily I felt being comfortable alone, without questioning the quiet. Lately, I’ve been feeling more comfortable alone.
How it used to feel
I was thinking about how silence used to scare me, making everything feel off. It bothers me a lot. Whenever I sit alone, I used to overthink a lot and feel so uncomfortable, which makes me feel nervous.
I always make myself busy and distract myself by starting to watch Netflix series, listening to music, and vibing it, or getting busy on the phone like scrolling, social media, turning on a podcast, or fidgeting with things around me.
I used to fill the gap by checking messages, watching a series, or calling a friend, so I make myself distracted from quietness.
But today it feels too easy to sit quietly. I’m slowly becoming comfortable alone, even when the room is silent. Compared to before, I feel more comfortable alone than I ever imagined.
The Missing Reflex
Whenever I used to feel like I was scared of being alone, my hand automatically reaches for my phone before I even realize it, scrolling through messages or flipping through apps without thinking.
But in that afternoon, sitting on my balcony under the lightly glowing winter sun, it don’t move. I just stayed still, letting the quiet stretch around me. My shoulders relaxed, my breath slowed, and my eyes wandered over familiar corners. I leaned back, letting my fingers rest in my lap, closing my eyes for a moment.
It was so calm. I feel like I was comfortable doing things alone. And for a moment I feel comfortable being myself.
Freedom in Solitude
While sitting there, I feel so calm like I feel myself that I never noticed before. I feel so relaxed without the fear of being judged. I wasn’t worried about my gesture or anything. I felt so calm as nobody was watching me, judging or hoping from me to act in the certain way they want me to.
I could sit in the way I want and observe things in my way. My way! Literally, it felt so good and calm and I came to know why some people feel comfortable alone.
A famous saying by Henry David Thoreau: “I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” — Henry David Thoreau.
The Comfort of Doing Things Alone
I made a mug of coffee for myself and watch series alone, which I used to watch either with a friend or someone else for talking, laughing, or even just making noise, so that I didn’t feel alone.
But today, I was alone, and it felt surprisingly easy. Each sip, each slow breath, felt like a quiet celebration of being comfortable alone. There was no pressure to perform, no eyes to measure me, no expectations to meet.
I literally felt confident in my own company. And I feel that being alone makes us feel more confident and that being comfortable alone is a sign of self-assuredness, a small but powerful freedom I hadn’t fully appreciated until now.
The Lightness of Being Alone
I don’t know why but whenever I was alone I feel emotional relief. No social pressure, no expectations from people, I literally felt so lighter that I never felt before.
I could simply sit and let my thoughts flow. I could literally feel myself. While, being alone i felt more comfortable alone than I could ever imagined like how finally I was allowed to feel like who I am. I am alone but not lonely. I am myself.
A famous saying that resonates here is, “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” — Wayne W. Dyer.
Embracing the Small Freedoms
I stayed on my balcony watching the sun set and enjoying my mug of coffee and being mentally relaxed. I felt super relaxed and calm like I have learnt that being comfortable alone is powerful.
I notice how much I enjoy being comfortable doing things alone. There’s no need to impress, perform, or explain. It’s a small, gentle freedom, and it reminds me that being comfortable alone is a sign of self-assuredness.
Finding Peace in My Own Company
I stayed on my balcony until the sun goes little lower, feeling the quiet settle around me like a soft blanket. There was no rush, no one to please, nothing to prove. Just me noticing how simple and comforting it is to be alone. I realised that these small moments are enough to feel calm, confident, and fully myself. Being alone doesn’t feel empty anymore it feels like a gift. And maybe, that’s the quiet magic of learning to truly enjoy your own company.
